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The Importance of Grieving: An Effective Grieving Chart

Dear person who may be grieving:

This is the best Grieving Chart that I have found to date.  It is good, because it allows for no predictability. 

Other than shock, no one can predict the next phase of grieving.

What I have come to know and understand is that we do not get over, around, or under grieving.  We can only go through it.

When I give this chart, I give two main instructions:

  1. First, get rid of your pride.  Park your ego at the door.  This is real, and it is time to face reality. 
  2. Second, “I deserve to be happy!”  Repeat this in the mirror one hundred, thousand, million times.  Believe it. It works.

The only other thing I can say is that every other single emotion that is expressed can come at unpredictable times.  It is best to be able to feel our feelings, once the pain is manageable, to know and understand the emotion that we are directly experiencing.  

Finally, remember this: By the depth of our grieving can we come to know and understand our ability to love.  We know what a mountain top is, by having experienced the river of tears at its base.


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